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I’ve had several conversations this past week with people who are worried, concerned, and nervous because … they are getting what they want! These are people who have job offers on the table that seem like great opportunities — but they haven’t been looking that hard yet. People who’ve just started dating — and already seem to have met a great person. People who actually had a good business year in ’09 — and are getting even better results in ’10. I know, some of us might be jealous because we’re not experiencing that in all areas of our lives right now. Let’s set that aside for a moment and just take a look at the quirkiness of human behavior in these scenarios. We say we want a great job without looking. We say we want to be in a relationship with a great guy. We say we want to [...]

On Tuesday of this week, Beth Ruske and I led a Tiara Teleconnect on “The Art of Seduction”– so the idea of seduction is on my mind. Why are we leading a session on seduction of all things? We usually think of seduction in a sexual or sensual realm. And it can certainly be a fun, exciting way of being in that realm and it can be so much more… In Tiara, we are looking at seduction in an EXPANDED way. We are defining seduction as your power and access to inviting others into your life, into possibilities, and your vision. And here is the key: seduction is about being attractive (and I am NOT talking about physical beauty here) and drawing people in – without manipulation, without fear, without the need to control or dominate others, without, trickery, and without attachment to people doing what you want in the [...]

(Yes I will eventually tie this to the NCAA college basketball tournament  . . .  but bear with me!) Over the past month we’ve had the pleasure of speaking to several groups of professional women in a wide variety of industries.  It is really wonderful and powerful to see a group of women come together, relax a bit, connect with each other, and think about what they’d like their lives to be like.  As we got deep into the discussion of creating desires for our lives, someone would invariably say  . . . “yes that sounds great in theory, but I can’t control the situation and it is important for me to control things in order to feel good”.  And that is where the madness really starts. The simple truth is we cannot control everything in our lives, and when we try we create a lot of unnecessary stress and pressure.  Yes, that’s [...]

On February 13, I attended the “Madly in Love with ME” Chicago event sponsored by Tiara and other amazing local businesses. Ever since, I have been thinking about the concept of self love. As I go about my daily routines and interact with people, I see how I can easily love and appreciate others and am not so quick to love and appreciate myself. I see a lack of self love. I see ways that I’m hard on myself. I see that I don’t forgive myself for actions that I would easily forgive in others – or wouldn’t even see the need to forgive in others! So, for me, when I notice the contrast, the question that immediately comes to mind (as it often does) is “why.” Why don’t I love myself as readily? Why don’t I love myself as much and as easily as I love my year old [...]

When I moved in with my now husband 2 1/2 years ago, it took an astonishing six weeks to get use to the commuting patterns around my new neighborhood.  Even crazier, I only moved four  blocks.  It was befuddling to me how a local relocation impacted my ability to be on-time to nearly all  appointment commitments.  I never expected it.  Nor did I realize the depth my travel pattern routines of the previous 11 years had become.  For weeks, I felt rushed, late, frustrated and embarrassed. We are creatures of habit.  We have our routines.  We have our schedules.  Some trivial.  Some vital (morning coffee anyone?).  Some hectic.   When an interruption or change occurs, we’re thrown off kilter.  These side steps, while usually temporary, often last long enough to drive us bonkers. What lies beneath the surface when these routine interruptions occur is a whispering that a timeout is order.  [...]